Anonymous asked: Is it “valid” to be a woman and hate being around straight women? I don’t want to be one of those “not like other girls” girl, but… straight women are annoying AF. They’re catty, petty, and insecure. I love being around wlw and my friends are pretty much 50% wlw and 50% mlm. I just really don’t have time for straight people. Yet at the same time… does it sound like internalized misogyny to you?
WLW can also be catty, petty, and insecure. My evidence? My own damn self.
And, yeah, framing women specifically (as you specify straight women, not straight people in general) with misogynistic terms (particularly catty/petty) does sound like a level of internalized misogyny.
That being said… you don’t hve to want to be around straight people. Dealing with casual homophobia or just a lack of actual understanding of what it means to love and be attracted to women is enough reason to not want to be around them. Straight people are annoying and can be unrelatable.
But women being attracted to men doesn’t inherently make them petty or insecure. Just like women being attracted to women doesn’t make us immune from pettiness or insecurity.
While I’ll be the first to point out LGBT people are inherently better than cishets… we also have to be honest that being LGBT doesn’t actually imbue us with good or bad qualities.
And I do think there’s merit to the fact that while we don’t have to spend time with or pretend to love straight women as they are our oppressors, it’s still imporant to remember… they’re still women. And solidarity with them can be meaningful. And framing women as “insecure” on the basis of them likng men does, in fact, come from a misogynistic mindset that no woman benefits from.
it’s like super fucked up that a teenage boy who wears makeup for a living has become the target of ceaseless, aggressive, widespread harassment, and everybody pretends it’s completely justified (as if literally anything “problematic" a literal child could have said or done would warrant this endless barrage of concentrated hate) and not just the socially sanctioned opportunity to bully the fuck out of an effeminate gay kid that it so obviously is
consider taking white twinks off a pedestal and understanding that male gender nonconformity has been performed publicly by men of colour for decades and sometimes when someone gets made fun of or called out they like just deserve it
not to mention how he’s like unapologetically mainstreamed and profited off of black and more specifically black lgbt culture considering aave makes up like a solid half of his “brand”
Not to mention a white man getting rightfully criticized for being racist is not “aggressive ceaseless harrassment” and it’s interesting how these criticisms are being described as that when Black and brown LGBT people are the main ones being vocal about their criticisms but you know whiteness has an egregious way of painting people of color as aggressive for daring to voice an opinion against a white person of any sort of marginalization 🤷🏾♀️
Today I called a girl homophobic as a joke and she almost started crying
She said “my neighbors are a lesbian couple! I’m the least homophobic person you’ll ever meet”
I said “Kelsea I’m really sorry I hurt your feelings but I need you to know that homophobic people can have lesbian neighbors” and she just got even more distraught and said “I’ve been inside their house and I wasn’t even afraid or anything”
Jeff Bezos cheated on his wife and didn’t have a prenup so I never again want to hear that rich people are rich because they’re smarter than everyone else
